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And know the way of life there. Should I keep seeing her? Hi Phil, thanks for the comment. Let me answer your questions to the best of my abilities: Not all Colombian women are on Colombian Cupid there are more than 20 million women in Colombia, therefore, not all are on there…or have even heard of the site. Plastic surgery in Colombia is low cost in comparison to the US and other countries and the level of quality can be very good, hence, Colombia being a leader in plastic surgery and at the top of plastic surgery patients.
Both men and women get stuff done here, so, yes, breast implants are common. Yes I know a couple girls that are CAM girls. And yes, they do it for the money. They earn great money because they get paid in foreign currency. My advice about seeing this girl…keep her as a friend. If you were living here in Medellin that would be different. Thank you,I really appreciated. It would be great to live there,if I can find a decent job.
I need to see what kind of Visa is require. So I can know everything I need to know about the city. Thank you very much.
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Any tips for a solo female traveler? Other than the things you would watch out for in any city, is there anything else to be aware of? The media often portrays Colombia as extremely dangerous for females—not being able to walk out into the street alone during the day, people robbing you at knifepoint, etc. Hello Andrew…many thanks for a very informative blog. Muchas gracias mi hermano…take care… David. Thank you for the insightful information you have provided about your life experiences living in Medellin.
Can you give input on living in other cities in Colombia? I have heard about some other cities in Colombia, that I would like to visit and spend time. Bogota the capital, obviously , Villavicencio, Cali, and Bucaramanga. I was thinking of coming to Colombia to live for a bit or longer in the near future. Jobwise, I would look to do a computer job and teach English. Any input, dating and otherwise, would be greatly appreciated. I currently live in Miami, Florida and was raised here. Thank you in advance. Xavier, I lived in Bogota for 6 months 5 years ago and it was great.
Loads of things to do, restaurants, bars, nightlife, etc. Andrew, just wanted to complement you for your blog. I just returned from Medellin last night. For years I heard about the women in Medellin so I finally decided to go and see what was all the fuss about. Let me tell you!! We are from Southern California, we both speak Spanish so that was very helpful.
The women and the people in Medellin are very social and very helpful. The beauty of their women was beyond my expectation. I have been to approximately 25 countries around the world but the GDP of beautiful women per capita in Medellin is off the chart. By talking to women I met I was able to tell that they are very open minded and things are a little bit different than in the US. I am writing about my own experience and these are my personal opinions. Though, I will have to better discribe them their butts as badankadonks.
My advise to anyone going there with the intent to meet women there for a relationship, friendship or dating is to do the work before getting there. Get on a dating site to talk and meet people so that you are set once you get there. Establish friendship before getting there to maximize your opportunities!! For women plastic surgery is more important than getting a car or a motorcycle. Because they want to be attractive for their men. There are more women than men.
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You can get around the city with Uber it works great. You can get money from most ATMs make sure you let your bank know about it before you go. Bring a buddy all girls will set you up with their friends and you can share the hotel cost. Yes most foreigners are welcome, they are very curious to meet people from other countries even other Latin countries.
Be safe, be courteous, and have fun. Therefore, I wanted to ask you, if you know some people who did wwoofing and maybe know some, who actually need some help somewhere in Medellin or anywhere else in Colombia? Plus, do you have any recommandations, like places to visit, restaurants in Medellin, Street arts, music festivals and more?
I really want to feel and be part of that culture! Hi Anthony, thanks for the comment. So you might want to plan you trip around festivals. Yeah, your blog is always entertaining and interesting to read and then revisit at times… I travel quite often, working in Afghanistan with lots of time off in between tours but I have yet to travel through south America. Plan on visiting for the first time, maybe AirBnB a week here n there, for a total of a month or so to start this july … Medellin, cali, etc.
My buddy from argentina says I look argentine but should get that gringo effect you mentioned with my gringo look with longer dark hair, obvious American accent. Dunno what im gonna do for shoes yet but im sure some pants like you have and some V-necks and I should be ok. What about the other way around?
Are Colombian guys as interested in American girls as Colombian girls are in American guys? Will being American work to my advantage or will it just make me stand out? Hi Nicole, thanks for the comment. I have quite a few white, girl friends here. From the US and Europe and all of them have great luck here. They are seen as exotic…and sexy by guys here. Even the not so attractive ones get play.
Just for their blond hair and white skin. She wrote a pretty good guest blog post about her experience here: This is her site: Here are a couple other great posts: It seems you are still paying attention to this blog of yours and I take the opportunity to ventilate my roller-coaster feelings after writing a Colombian girl via hotmail.
Normally I am a quite suspicious person and I give notice to inconsistencies in a story that leads me to believe that bogus is going on. Maybe I can believe this girl or she is a master to deceive me and trick money out of me. So far what she tells me about herself is possible.
Some questions about financial support are reasonable. I met her as a camgirl, yes I know, red alert, but wait. We came to talk a lot with each other in pvt, she was fully dressed all the time but she did a good show for me some days earlier. She told me she felt dirty, used and disgusted to be there and her mother disliked it. She is 24 years and lives with her parents.
Many Colombian girls are doing that, she said. Yes, that seems to be true, many write that in their bios. She wanted to quit the site within the next two days, it was pure coincidence I was there before she checked out. I never thought she would write. We have exchanged about 25 mails each since. She sent non-nude photos of herself to prove that she was the one I saw on the cam site. I offered her to learn English if I pay her, asked her to find an institute and show me the costs. When I recently got angry at her for asking for money, she pointed out to me that I was the one offering her to go to English classes, not her.
She is right about that. She showed me an institute and it was about 85 dollars a month. Already during the webcam chat she mentioned her father was diagnosed with cancer and the medication and the treatment was very expensive. She did not expressively ask for money, but it was a difficult financial situation. Then her father got a heart attack.
She made selfies with herself in the intensive care station with a man in the bed behind. She needs to go to an internet cafe all the time, we would be able to be so much closer if I bought a computer for her — okay, I have heard this story many times. She sent a picture of what she wanted, dollars, I said the computers I buy here are maybe dollars and are perfectly okay for internet and chatting. I never bought that computer.
I will never do that. She does not insist, but now and then returns to the fact that it would be so much easier to chat. I have agreed to send her dollars every month to finance the English class and give some extra, two payments so far. Recently she wrote about all the trouble she goes through at home with fighting parents, her siblings want her to pay everything for her parents as she is the child living at home. She cannot stand the unrest and will rent a small room somewhere else.
That will increase her spending and my monthly support will not be sufficient for English class and an own living. Okay, could be true. To be able to send her money by bank wire the Colombian bank required her personal data, full name, birth date and address. She hesitated for several mails to give it to me. She said I could spread pictures of her from her webcam period, send them to the address, and her life would be destroyed for ever. No employer would employ a person with nude pictures spread all around over the net.
I found some of her on the net, by her webcam alias name, which is the same she uses for hotmail, I did not spread them. I got her full name, full address and birth date, and she received the money. Because of the huge fees she wants me to use Western Union next time. She writes long mails, up to 4 pages, run through a translator. She has looked up info regarding my country, read about the history, the culture, looked at fotos, commented on it as any girl who wants to learn about a new country.
She never talks about partying, discos, clubs, dancing, evening with friends, etc. I feel some kind of love for her. The love an older single Western guy will feel for a much younger poor girl from a poorer country. I tried to arrange to see her. But the air fares are too high. She has not really asked for money to see me. I have tried to go myself, but it will not be possible. We agreed she needs to learn English first. I wrote her a really angry mail the other day, bringing up all I heard about cheating, gold digging, that she claims to love me, but it is just because I send her money.
I expected she would be very angry and say I could go to hell, or that she would not reply at all, I offered her to go away and leave me in peace if my accusations were true. No, she replied in a long very sad mail, that she understands me, when she puts herself in my situation she can very well understand that I suspect her to be fake, but it is not true, and if I decide to cancel the relationship she would accept it, though she would miss me. She could have written so many other stuff that would have prevented me from going on. She said all the recent costs for her parents, her new rental room, an accident on a motor bike she sent a picture of her bruised leg , has created a situation where there is not enough money to pay her college fee end of July.
She said she hated to bring up this subject again with me, as I was so against her talking about money, but she had no other person to ask. She wrote literally that this is the last time she will be asking for money. I will remind her of it if she asks again, be sure. I understand that a girl from the Pereira area, who is very young, who seems to have high goals to get out of her miserable situation by working hard, studying hard, not meeting a Colombian guy who makes her pregnant which happened to her sisters , is interested in a Westerner European with quite other financial means, and who is much older.
She has no problems that I am much older, and I have no problems that she is much younger. There is an age difference of 30 years. I never had a relationship and she had her last one three years ago where she lost a child in the fourth month. We get along very well by mail, we share a lot of values which surprises me , she is not childish, not stupid, not a party-goer, she wants to learn to swim, dance, skate, just to get away from her fighting parents at home.
We discussed a future together but we came both, not just me, to the conclusion that it is probably not possible, the language, cultural and climate barriers are too high. We decided to go on as a bit more than friends on the mail and see what happens in the long run. She will make her exam in psychology within 2 years. Before that nothing will happen. Am I getting robbed here or not, Andrew?
It can be either way. Is it possible that she is just a liar, that she is instead on another cam site, that she writes this way to many other stupid Americans or Europeans but four pages each to everyone every night? Or is it true that she wanted the contact with me because I treated her so good already in the webcam chat room, and I was so understanding and encouraging? I understand that Colombianas look different on older men than Western girls do. That my secure financial situation and higher social status makes me attractive. And probably she has learned that Westerners have nothing against falling in love with much younger and good-looking girls from the Latina area.
All relationships include hard facts, even from girls in my own country. A poor guy cannot get a rich girl. A very ugly guy cannot get a good-looking girl even if he has a fortune up to a limit. Is it possible that she sends fake selfies of herself with a man in the hospital in the background who is not her father? Why go through so much trouble to break into a hospital and make fake pictures? If I can make her life somewhat lighter by sending a relatively small amount every month, why not?
I have asked her several times not to lie to me, to tell me the truth. Okay, you can say whatever, but the length, the complexity, her interest in me and my country, makes me unsure whether it is fake or not. Is it true everlasting love? What do you think, Andrew? I am running through nightmares certain days, and other days I feel happy that someone is writing me every night and give me a lot of passion.
She has my real name and my real address but nevertheless I would feel free to break up from one day to the next — but I need to be able to point out something with makes me want to discontinue. Can someone really be that advanced, to fake 25 mails, get the story to hold together, still being passionate about me? Is there any proof she can send to me that she is who she says? Is the name correct? Sometimes I am afraid I am a fool. Charles, thanks for sharing. But you should be careful because even though people here or anywhere in the world are genuinely nice, circumstances will make them do bad things.
So the first thing I would do is ask her if she has a facebook account. Almost everyone in Colombian has one. On facebook you can see her real pictures, friends, activities, etc. Third, you need to make a plan and set a date to come visit her. I am a bit surprised that you are so optimistic.
In my desperation I wrote another blog dealing with unfaithful Colombian girls. My questions were made a blogpost during the last night, and all comments say that I am dealing with a full-time prostitute, who was so good at camming because she was already before a prostitute. There are numerous stories that resembles mine, going to work to pay for college fees is to say that she works in a local brothel.
On that site nobody is positive at all. In court I would have to confess, though, that I cannot find an obvious lie in what this girl wrote so far. Just her previous life is against her and the numerous stories about the same procedure. If I find a lie I will cancel her immediately. So far the financial bit is bothering me and yesterday I told her I cannot support her.
Still, I cannot understand why someone goes through so much effort, to write day in and day out, for so little money. She has never explicitly asked for money until these last dollars. Still there are pros and cons. But nobody but you are really sending me optimistic comments. I truly do hope it has gone well for you.
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Hello Charles and Andrew. I am in a similar situation. But there are key differences I think. She has a son from a previous relationship. I have a daughter from my previous marriage. She never asked for money directly. I have her address and also copies of her identification documents among other things. Within a short period of time talking we both agreed to be in a Long Distance Relationship.
Our status both of us on Facebook reflect this. She has asked me stay with her when I come to Colombia trying to make it happen in Andrew, sorry for not replying to you earlier. I have been on vacation and was happy not to have any computer with me. I still have contact with this girl! I cannot find anything wrong with her. I need to find proof that she is lying or giving an inconsistent story in order for me to get angry enough to close down the contact.
Everything she says is perfectly possible! We have exchanged more than 50 mails by now. I questioned her real hard about her identity. She was sad and angry with me as I never seemed to believe anything she said. She sent a copy of her Colombian id card I checked others on the net, it is no fake , she sent the id card from her university and her job. All have the same name, the photo on the id-cards correspond to the girl I saw on cam.
Her name corresponds to the owner of the bank account. Therefore I know who she is, her full name, her home address, her work address, her birth date, her bank account number and she even sent me her password to access the internet bank, but I did not use it. So she is the one she claims to be. She has asked me for money twice, last time she says it was her last request.
I will bring it up if she asks again. In total USD. We still want to meet but she needs to learn English first. When we meet it will be in a neutral place, probably Spain. I am still in a state of more than friendship. I went through mental hell after reading all stories about cheating Colombianas. I am still skeptical, I am still looking for errors. How could I abandon a nice girl who writes so compassionate and encouraging mails to me just because other Colombian camgirls have been cheaters? I seem to mean a lot to her being nice. She helps me a lot, like no other female contact I ever had, overcoming my bad self-esteem.
She teaches me to be positive, tricks to become a happier person she studies psychology, it shows. Not even my closest friends since childhood have been so helpful and understanding. And I should regard her as a hooker? There is an enormous age difference, still we talk and feel the same. I can very well imagine that she likes an older Western guy with more money who will bring her a better social status. But so — does not every girl want that? And is not an older Western girl very pleased to have a young girlfriend who gives him status and who brings joy? I cannot break before I have a reason.
I am most likely not speaking to my future wife. But I like her a lot. Hi Mark, firstly, I do have a job, well I run a business here in Medellin. Regardless, I appreciate the criticism and will work on making my tone of writing more clear. Have you ever considered making a blog post or a guide on training oneself to respond to venom with compassion? I guess I just give people the benefit of the doubt at all times. Always assuming the best of others generally pays off in the long run. I think writing something along those lines would take a lot of a time and research. How do you handle negativity?
But I find imaginative thought experiments help me to give people the benefit of the doubt. He must be distracted by something. Maybe something bad happened in his life very recently. I hope he is OK.
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If I do this again and again, it begins to become second nature. But it requires vigilance and persistence, and I must admit that sometimes I let my guard down and forget, and then become irritated and react like a typical irritated person would. Both online and off. Compassion, like many qualities people incorrectly assume to be ingrained and present from birth, is a learned skill, and like any skill it requires practice practice practice to be good at it.
From reading your replies to many posters to your blog not just the one above , I can easily see that you have developed this skill. Did you develop it consciously and deliberately? Or was it gradually taught to you as you grew up? If the former, then you have a lot of valuable things to say on the subject, and I for one would love to read them; hence my suggestion. If the latter, then perhaps your parents should start writing a blog.
Si, es verdad, muchos hombres de otros paises vienen a Colombia por que creen que pueden golear con las mujeres, pero la realidad es que si un hombre tiene inseguridades, no importa donde este siempre le ira mal. En que parte de Bogota vives? Hola, gracias por la respuesta. Das clases via skype? The problem with foreigners in Colombia is they always resort to what has worked for them in the past, via instinct. Still, i do well. I use that to my advantage. Simply be somewhat groomed, confident, and willing to push your own bounderies.
I then either ask tienes whatsapp or simply pull out my own phone and type up a quick message or have a preloaded message about what are you doing today using my translator app, and then my foot is on the door for more. Btw, use tinder and especially if youre from the US and english only, state that in your profile and keep it simple.
Also, I barellllllllyyyyy speak any spanish. Total time in Colombia will be from DecJan7. I like a mix of the local fun and also some expat fun as well. However, I have decided to branch out. This year, I feel that I will take the plunge. My only question is: No pienso que tendre problemas con la idioma. Mi preocupacion, sin embargo, es el seguirdad. Estoy preocupando por nada. Colombia is as dangerous as you make it to be. Tell me the Exito u were at with the pretty teller girl was in Estadio cuz I was picturing u at one of the banks up stairs and then going down to Estadio.
I was there in April for a month Solo. Hi Andrew, Thanks for the great post! I mean , before we had an actual time to get to know each other. Is this the Colombian culture or I should run away from this type kind of girls? Moreover, in this particular case she have asked me to pay for her and her friend. I have heard of this happening to other foreigners, usually, older guys taking younger girls out. So for me, this is uncommon. Usually, it happens on a first date. I am really interested in a trip to Medellin but cannot speak spanish. Seems like it would be hard to have a good time and enjoy the experience without spanish.
Maybe I will try and work on my spanish a little more. I was also wondering how the girls over there react to older guys? John, it depends on what you like to do and your budget. As for what to do, again it depends on what you like to do and your budget. I wrote a nightlife blog post. Hi,iam from los angeles california and iam in medellin now on vacation. Thanks for all the info you provide, on were to party and hang out. Any guy trips or group trips going to medallion im in Not that i want to hang around a bunch of guys mainly going for the women But it would be a huge help if i knew somebody going that knows a little or lot perferably more spanish than me.
Or has been before that knows all the hott spots im flexible on any dates i can goim retired 55 w m Somebody give me some info plus on top of that i havnt been out of the country in 20 years tom. American women are so effed up with all the assault and harassment nonsense; ego trips they have destroyed dating and marriage in America. A man in America who marries is simply a fool because of the anti-marriage entanglements of the laws. Consequently, since ejaculation is a necessity of nature, the only recourse is to try and find normal natural women, and that drives American men to non-American women.
Don, thanks for the comment. Hit me up when you get here, we can meet up for coffee or a beer.
But it has not even been two years yet and I still do not have the mental strength to date yet sadly….. Pop over to http: Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your fam. Retiring in Medellin seems to be on the mind of many men and women around the globe.
It really is a great city, the weather is wonderful and the women are off the charts! You are right that online dating here does take more effort than some guys may be expecting. THe heart icon will get you nowhere, you need to actually read what they have to say and know how to come up with some sort of worthwhile message. I will be traveling in Bogota in October alone.
I was a bit scared as my Spanish was not that good but I think I am getting better and I know it will help me a lot. I love Colombianas and that is the main reason why I am going to Colombia. Do you think we can meet up in Bogota or I can see you in Medellin? I would like to make new friends there and as I am planning to move in Colombia permanently.
I am a Filipino who understands and speaks Spanish a little bit and I work in the Cruise Line industry. Hope to hear from you. Immersing yourself in the language and culture will heighten your Spanish skills for sure. As for meeting up? Most of my time is spent managing my business or playing basketball.
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My curiosity though is why would a Pinoy try to get a Columbian or Venezuelan for that matter when he have one of the most endearing women in his world? To me that only means they wanna come here then shake you off.. It gives you a glimpse of dating and nightlife in Colombia. I think you should visit Puerto Rico sometime. I have a feeling that you would like it. Im from California and So Cal as well! And then travelling elsewhere around Colombia. Hi Brandon, today is the day I play basketball from 5pm to 7pm then I go back to the office to wrap the work day up and head home.
I commented on your blog a week or so ago and asked you a question with no response back. I guess you only respond to the easy comments. Its all good, This blog is all about YOU and nothing else,. Stressed about taking the perfect selfie for your dating profile? Then try Blindfold, a local dating app that conceals your photo until you and your match decide to unmask each other. People who just like putting things in categories. If the problem persists, please contact customer care. Try these apps instead By Denise Ngo. Be the first to comment.
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